Does Your Head Talk to You Too Much?
Maybe this sounds silly, but do you find that your head keeps talking to you and you can’t turn it off? I know how that feels cuz I was burdened with that for many years. Until I realized that…
You can choose your thoughts.
Yes. You can exercise control over the thoughts that keep flitting through your head. You can influence your own thoughts to be more self-compassionate on yourself, less hurtful to you and others, and simply less inflammatory.
This was a whole new concept that was introduced to me through the writings of Marianne Williamson and Caroline Myss. They said to practice giving your brain quiet time. When you feel too many jumbling thoughts, try stopping it just for a few seconds, and then a few more seconds. Just breathe through it. Learn and practice, learn and practice some more. Let there simply be nothing in your head for a while. Hard to do sometimes!
I noticed that when I calmed my incessant thinking, I started seeing the room in front of me instead of the place I wanted to be in the future. I smelled the smells around me and noticed the sky out the window. I didn’t think about it. I just noticed. And I’d smile.
I eventually learned that this is called mindfulness. One definition is, “A mental state achieved by focusing one's awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.”
It is all too easy to list what needs to be done in the next day, week, month or re-hash what you said to your boss or didn’t say to your boss. Or relive the near accident you had today. Or berate yourself for not speaking up for yourself during the meeting.
Sure, these things happened and might need some attention. But when you find yourself going over things and over things in your head, and your head starts talking too much….
Stop. You can choose your thoughts. Calm yourself by breathing in the moment. Feel your feelings. Smell the smells around you and wonder what someone is cooking. Listen for the birds or the trees talking to each other. Notice the variety of textures in front of you. Smile at the photo smiling back at you. Just take some time to notice what is around you and let your thoughts get still.
I also know that our subconscious puts us on autopilot based on what we perceived during our childhood or even inherited from our families. The subconscious autopilot keeps re-living our unhealthy beliefs we picked up along the way. But you can choose your thoughts, if you take some time to stop the autopilot, pay attention to what is around you, calm the voices in our heads, and choose more uplifting thoughts.
That’s when I’ve been so grateful that through this Body Code practice of energy clearing, I can help others get free from the trapped emotional energies that hold them back from enjoying the moment. I do daily releases on myself and get to help my clients find more peace, too. I’m still astounded how it changes things.
I am grateful and will continue to work on choosing my thoughts more carefully.
What Do You Tell Yourself that Keeps You Stuck?
"I failed at this before."
OK. I'll give you some space on this one because I know first-hand that failure can hurt.
But I won't let you end there. Because "failure" is just another way of life getting your attention that you have some learning and growing to do. And, that things are not yet quite ready for you to move ahead--you have some baggage to attend to.
Have you ever tried to talk to your boss and felt like you got nowhere? Or have you wanted to move to a new place and didn't have the courage to do so?
By shifting your focus off of what seems like failure and instead re-framing past situations as, "What really happened? What did I learn? What could I do better?" you start to see things in a new light.
Using energy clearing, your subconscious reveals past feelings that keep you repeating old patterns based on unhealthy emotions or energies. Your body wants to identify these, release them, and regain its vibrational strength to move forward.
I can work with your subconscious to release these blockages, and I use my years of life experience and intuitive wisdom to suggest conscious plans of action. They go hand in hand to help you take the steps you want in life.
Several of my clients felt they wanted to move to a different place, a different climate. Together we acknowledged areas that needed to be addressed, energetically released subconscious blockages, and tried on new scenarios. Eventually the next step and then the next step happened as he or she assessed their lives with less stress and pain. Ultimately, some chose to move to a new locale and some did not. The move was not the end goal, the clearing of past baggage was.
By clearing the blockages that hold us back, we clear our goggles and can see our next step more clearly.
And, that truly is enough to get started. Failure just becomes the stepping stone to the next life adventure and growth opportunity.
I can help you get started and reach your new life, too.
If you struggle with never feeling good enough or with other trapped feelings and beliefs that hold you back, I am here for you.
You don’t have to go this path alone. You can find and live your Higher Purpose in life with clarity, confidence, and calm.
Through my special Compassionate Energy Clearing, I can help you release the blocks that hold you back from living the life you want to lead. Contact me today for a free first consult to see if this is right for you.
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What Do You Tell Yourself that Keeps You Stuck?
“It’s too complicated.”
By now you know that I focus on getting unstuck and moving forward in life--because I've needed it so much in my own life. And I've seen it in the lives of my friends, family, and clients.
I understand what it means get stuck in grief after the loss of a love relationship whether through death, divorce, or separation. I know what it feels like to be in a job that doesn’t fit, but you still need to pay the bills. Or, how it feels to be frozen with fear at taking a step that might snowball in ways you can’t control or know what will happen. Aargh!
So often, we stay stuck because it all seems too complicated to figure out.
“It’s too complicated,” we tell ourselves. And since we can’t figure out every detail in the future, we give up and do nothing. But doing nothing keeps you in the same mudpuddle.
Instead, take a look back at your life and see all the things you DID figure out because you took an action that needed to be taken. Then, smile and be grateful. If you truly want to make a change and take an action that will lead to change, you only need to know the next step—not the whole picture. You are responsible for only that and let Spirit work on the rest of the how and what.
You can be free of the feelings and the unhelpful beliefs that hold you back!
When I lived in Baltimore, I decided to flip a house for profit (you can laugh now; it didn’t work too well, but I learned a lot). What I learned is that with every weird thing that happened that I couldn’t figure out, an answer would come. Eventually, I had enough names of tradespeople and city officials to help me deal with the next weird event. I learned to calm my fears and the wringing of hands, because I had enough of the right contacts so I could figure out how to handle the next thing that would happen—because it always did! It was the agony and anticipation that were more painful than the actual weird events.
(I do wish I had known about releasing blocked energies back then.)
I’ve found this applies to my life here in Malaysia, too, on big things and little things. Like, how do I pay my electric bill that is written in a language I don’t understand? I was so stuck in being afraid that I would never get it paid and they’d turn off my electricity or they’d run me out of the country because….(you get the picture)…!! Oh, my, oh, my, what would I do?!, I thought.
It took me days to practice opening up the online version of my Malaysian bank account. I practiced pushing buttons on the thing-a-ma-jig the bank gave me for security purposes. Then, I’d close it up and have tea. I needed a break.
By this time, I knew enough to clear some energy blockages on myself. Then, I’d go back and open up the online bank account and start the process again. This time, I could go further and more quickly. Eventually I found the button that said “pay bills,” “add payee,” and found the drop down menu with words that matched the words on my electric bill. And, voila, I pushed more buttons and paid the bill. I did it!
No one was there to celebrate with me, but I felt great that I had conquered something that was “too complicated” for me to face. It took me a few tries, and I practiced each step until I could take the next step. Yes, I had some frustration (ha!), but I wanted to prove to myself that I could establish my life here in Malaysia and make it work.
I realize this isn’t about a major life decision or great pain—but it did touch my feelings of fear that I wouldn’t be able to cope in a new country. It touched my confidence in myself, my sense of independence and competence, and my ability to figure things out.
I worked on myself through energy release to get myself unstuck and able to face that new online banking system again. I practiced my habits of breathing, giving myself space to fail and try again, and persistence. And it came together—and now I have automatic payments set up and I don’t have to worry about any of it.
This stuff works.
Certified Body Code Practitioner, life coach and energy healer, former non-profit executive with years of experience in caring for and about people and their place in this world. Friend of refugees and immigrants, ally to the addiction recovery community--all with respect, love, and compassion for mutual healing.